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spellchecker fun, Deportment, and another day home sick
Seems as though I only post when I'm home sick, and then it'll be massive.
I'm endlessly amused by the things which the spellchecker on my email suggests for people's names. It changed one woman's name to Shell Shall. :)
I've been reading "Our Deportment: or the Manners, Conduct and Dress of the Most Refined Society," ("Including Forms for Letters, Invitations, Etc., Etc. Also, Valuable Suggestions on Home Culture and Training.") which was Compiled from the Latest Reliable Authorities by John H. Young, A. M., "Revised and Illustrated," and presumably published by F. B. Dickerson & Co. in 1882. (Does anyone have any idea what the 'A. M.' after Mr. Young's name might stand for? Adult with Manners, perhaps?) I'm constantly running across things I'd like to quote, things I think are just lovely, things I wish we still did, and some things I completely can't figure out.
In the section on "Etiquette of Calls," under the subsection "'Engaged' or 'Not At Home'" - of course a lady should always make an effort to receive callers whenever they arrive, but... "There are times and seasons when a person desires to be left entirely alone, and at such times there is no friendship for which she would give up her occupation or her solitude."
The rules about calls, and calling cards, are many and numerous, and I'm completely confused by them. For instance, sending a calling card enclosed (or inclosed, they use the spellings interchangeably) in an envelope indicates that you want to cease visiting between yourself and the person you sent it to. Unless you are a newly married man, in which case you send out your bachelor cards, enclosed in envelopes) to people you DO want to keep on visiting terms with as an indication that they should call upon your wife as soon as she takes possession of her new home. Or, when someone in your family has died, and you now feel ready to receive visitors again, you send out 'mourning cards' to people who've left their calling cards, and the mourning cards can be in envelopes without it meaning "don't visit us anymore."
It's easy to end visiting between people, according to this book. Not calling when invited to do so or not returning a call twice in a row, with no good excuse - pretty much the end of your friendship. And I haven't found, nor do I expect to find, any rule on how to repair that insult if you do it by sheer.. ineptitude? Not paying attention? Being a slacker? No, you just can't be a slacker at all, apparently, and expect people to go on being your friend.
Well. Hm. That's one of my worst problems. What am I to do?
I'm endlessly amused by the things which the spellchecker on my email suggests for people's names. It changed one woman's name to Shell Shall. :)
I've been reading "Our Deportment: or the Manners, Conduct and Dress of the Most Refined Society," ("Including Forms for Letters, Invitations, Etc., Etc. Also, Valuable Suggestions on Home Culture and Training.") which was Compiled from the Latest Reliable Authorities by John H. Young, A. M., "Revised and Illustrated," and presumably published by F. B. Dickerson & Co. in 1882. (Does anyone have any idea what the 'A. M.' after Mr. Young's name might stand for? Adult with Manners, perhaps?) I'm constantly running across things I'd like to quote, things I think are just lovely, things I wish we still did, and some things I completely can't figure out.
In the section on "Etiquette of Calls," under the subsection "'Engaged' or 'Not At Home'" - of course a lady should always make an effort to receive callers whenever they arrive, but... "There are times and seasons when a person desires to be left entirely alone, and at such times there is no friendship for which she would give up her occupation or her solitude."
The rules about calls, and calling cards, are many and numerous, and I'm completely confused by them. For instance, sending a calling card enclosed (or inclosed, they use the spellings interchangeably) in an envelope indicates that you want to cease visiting between yourself and the person you sent it to. Unless you are a newly married man, in which case you send out your bachelor cards, enclosed in envelopes) to people you DO want to keep on visiting terms with as an indication that they should call upon your wife as soon as she takes possession of her new home. Or, when someone in your family has died, and you now feel ready to receive visitors again, you send out 'mourning cards' to people who've left their calling cards, and the mourning cards can be in envelopes without it meaning "don't visit us anymore."
It's easy to end visiting between people, according to this book. Not calling when invited to do so or not returning a call twice in a row, with no good excuse - pretty much the end of your friendship. And I haven't found, nor do I expect to find, any rule on how to repair that insult if you do it by sheer.. ineptitude? Not paying attention? Being a slacker? No, you just can't be a slacker at all, apparently, and expect people to go on being your friend.
Well. Hm. That's one of my worst problems. What am I to do?
whoa...
Re: whoa...
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(Anonymous) 2006-03-21 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)you are charming enough that
I'd doubt people will walk away from you unless you give them a good and proper shove ( but not thru any benign
neglect:)
lookstoalaska
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Yes. It stands for Artium Magister, 'Master of Arts'. Some schools award MA degrees, others AMs.
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