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[derien]

I'm not asking anyone to respond to this post, I'm not posting this to be a sympathy whore, I just need to post right now.

Our stepmother called and told Hawk the news. Dad has cancer in his pancreas which has already metastasized to his liver. He wants to do chemo. Frankly, as I have said, I think if he could use that money on a trip to the French Riviera to watch the topless girls on the beach I think it would be much better spent. If you stop the cancer something else is going to kill him soon enough, there's too much failing in his body. I said to Eightball (because phone calls with him flew back and forth all evening) "Some people might think I'm heartless." and he said "No. You're practical, as always."

Anyway, off the work. The show must go on. Smiles, everybody!

Comments

[beowabbit]

I’m so sorry. I just lost an ex to metastasized pancreatic cancer. In her case, it sort of made sense to do chemo and radiation therapy, because they thought they’d caught it very early and she had a reasonable prognosis with treatment. But after they finished the last treatment they did some sort of “how’d it go” imaging (or maybe exploratory surgery? I’m not sure.) and the answer was not good, and a week later she was dead.

I’m sure if she’d known how it was going to turn out she’d have skipped the chemo and radiation and had a much more comfortable last few months.

If I ever have advanced pancreatic cancer, I will certainly take your advice.

And I’m so very sorry, my best wishes to you and him and your stepmother.

[derien.livejournal.com]

Oh wow, I didn't even remember that it was pancreatic cancer for her, too. Knew it was cancer but the exact organ didn't ring a bell. This is getting too weird, as my stepmother's brother was also diagnosed with the same thing only a little over a month or so ago.

The French Riviera came to mind so spontaneously... I just thought "Warm, pleasant, and my Dad would love the topless women on the beach." Or maybe Tahiti would be better this year. :)